At times we all feel less than successful. We feel like we’re running in place, struggling to make even the slightest bit of progress. And while this is a perfectly normal feeling sooner than later you will need to break free from it and see yourself and your life in a more positive light.
The key is to pay attention to the small things. Just because you’re not where you want to be, doesn’t mean you’re a failure. In fact, quite the opposite is true.To be truly happy and successful today doesn’t mean you don’t desire more in the future, it means you are sincerely thankful for what you have already accomplished and patient for everything yet to come.
Every morning when you wake up, think of three things that are going well in your life at the moment. As you fall asleep every night, fill your mind with an appreciation for all the small things that went well during the day. Learn to take stock in your daily successes.
Here are a few reminders –
You love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of everyone else loving you. – Putting yourself first does not mean being “selfish.” It means being self-aware. It means never forgetting to love yourself, too.
You are walking your own path, no one elses. – One of the most foundational sources of both success and happiness is simply being comfortable with who you really are. You’re not trading your reality for a role or your truth for an act. Not giving up your freedom of thought. Not putting on a mask. So never let anyone’s ignorance, hate, drama or negativity stop you. If you desire to make a difference in the world, you must continue to be different from the world. Don’t be scared to walk alone on your own path, and don’t be scared to like it.
You are gradually working through your fears. – As you know, running from fear is a race you’ll never win. In fact, what you’re afraid of dealing with is often precisely what will set you free. So keep doing what you’ve been doing – take another step forward today. Maybe you are going through a divorce, or there is a certain goal you are trying to achieve, whatever your fear is, don’t let your fear decide your future. Don’t let it shut you down. Instead, let it wake you up! Take chances and indulge in the excitement. Tell yourself that the fear of suffering is far worse than the suffering itself. Convince yourself that everything you want is on the other side of fear and hopefully, you will believe that it truly is.
You do your best to love what is. – A big part of success and happiness is not getting everything you want, but mindfully wanting what you get. After all, stress is resistance to what is. Maybe you’re in a new position and the people or process aren’t what you’re use to. Sometimes the best possible response is simply allowing yourself to be at peace with what is, rather than wishing for, and moaning about what is not. Continue to accept what comes to you totally and completely, so you can appreciate it, learn from it and then let it go. It’s about doing the best you can with the hand you’ve been dealt.
You try to be as present as possible. – Really, nothing is worth more than today. Because you can’t change yesterday or accurately predict tomorrow, but you can ruin today – your real life – by worrying about has or will occur. So stay present and focus on what you can create today. Tomorrow will reveal itself exactly as it should, just as yesterday already has.
You are the reason some people smile. – Do not miss a chance – not one single, tiny opportunity – to tell someone how wonderful they are and how beautiful they are, inside and out.
You have incredible people in your life. – Your capacity to be both effective and happy is directly related to the quality of people whom most closely surround you every single day. Having just one or two of these people a phone call away is truly a priceless blessing.